The Do’s and Don’ts in a Blogging Community
If there’s one thing I’ve learned over the years of blogging, it’s that the community can be one of the best parts of the whole experience — when we’re actually supporting each other. Blogging isn’t just hitting publish and hoping someone reads it. It’s connecting, showing up for one another, and creating a space where everyone feels welcome to share their voice.
But let’s be honest: not every corner of the blogging world feels that way. Sometimes people forget that behind every blog is a real person doing their best. So I wanted to put together a simple, down‑to‑earth list of do’s and don’ts — the things that genuinely help build a positive blogging community, and the things that… well, don’t.
Nothing complicated, nothing dramatic. Just the kind of common‑sense, supportive habits that make blogging more enjoyable for all of us.
The Do’s: How We Can Lift Each Other Up
Do show support in ways that feel natural to you
Support doesn’t have to be complicated or time‑consuming. Sometimes it’s just showing up. A few easy ways to do that:
- Leaving a thoughtful comment on someone’s post
- Sharing a blog post you enjoyed
- Engaging with their content when you see it
- Cheering them on when they hit a milestone
These little things really do matter, and they help build genuine connections.
Do find blog interactions that actually work for you
Not everyone interacts the same way, and that’s okay. Some people love link‑ups, some prefer one‑on‑one collaborations, and others enjoy hopping around and reading whatever catches their eye. You can:
- Join blog link‑ups
- Collaborate with bloggers in your niche
- Swap guest posts
- Participate in themed challenges
- Or simply visit blogs you enjoy and leave supportive feedback
There’s no “right” way to be part of the community — just find what fits your style and your schedule.
Do visit other blogs and leave meaningful feedback
If you want engagement, you have to give engagement. It really is that simple. Visiting other blogs helps you discover new voices, stay inspired, and build relationships. And honestly, a kind comment can make someone’s whole day.
The Don’ts: Things That Don’t Belong in a Supportive Community
Don’t judge how another blogger earns their income
This one needs to be said.
A lot of bloggers use ads. Many people use affiliate links. Some use both. Some use neither. And none of these choices make someone a “better” or “worse” blogger.
Yes, ads can be a little annoying sometimes — especially pop‑ups — but going out of your way to talk badly about someone else’s blog because they have ads, while you’re sharing affiliate links that earn you money, is… well, a bit off. Let’s be honest.
Everyone’s situation is different. Everyone’s goals are different. And many people use ad blockers anyway, so if you’re one of them, the ads shouldn’t even affect you.
At the end of the day, talking badly about how someone gets paid is just plain silly.
Don’t gatekeep what “real blogging” looks like
❤Some bloggers write long posts.
❤Some share quick updates.
❤Some focus on photos.
❤Some treat their blog like a business.
❤Some treat it like a hobby.
All of it is valid. There’s room for everyone.
Don’t copy someone else’s work
Being inspired is normal — copying is not. Your voice is what makes your blog special, so lean into that instead of trying to sound like someone else.
Don’t expect support if you never give any
Community is a two‑way street. If you never visit other blogs, never comment, never interact, and never show up for anyone else, it’s unrealistic to expect people to show up for you.
Don’t compare your journey to someone else’s
We all grow at different paces. Some bloggers take off quickly, and others build slowly over time. There’s no timeline you have to follow. Focus on your own path and what makes your blog meaningful to you.
My Final Thoughts
A blogging community works best when we’re actually supporting each other. When we show up, share kindness, and respect the different ways people choose to run their blogs, the whole space becomes more positive and enjoyable. There’s room for all of us — and when we lift each other up, we all benefit.
Featured on: Spread the Kindness Link up on the Edge #794
I want to commend you on this post. It's a topic that many of us bloggers don't discuss often, but it’s so important. I've been blogging for many years, and it truly amazes me how some bloggers go out of their way not to support one another, whether out of jealousy or other unclear reasons.
ReplyDeleteEarlier in my blogging journey, I perceived things differently than I do now. I no longer participate in blog link-ups because some people get upset when they aren't featured. While I thought it was a nice idea at first, I've grown weary of it.
Stephanie, you’ve chosen a fantastic topic, and I appreciate you addressing it.
Wishing you all the best,
M.B.
M.B., thank you. It was something I wanted to write about for a while and thought this was the perfect time. I've had both good and bad experiences with blogging. I've even had many comment anonymously just to leave something negative (which, by the way, I think I know who those people are), lol. No worries, though. Thank you for your support. I appreciate your comments and you taking the time to visit. 😊🤗
DeleteA very well written & balanced post Stephanie on a difficult subject.
ReplyDeleteI've been blogging for eight years & have had a positive experience within those years. Although I know those who have experienced unfair negative feedback.
I really enjoy the blogging friendships that I've discovered & made over those years across the globe.
Blessings, Jennifer
Jennifer, thank you. Yes, blogging can bring both positive and negative experiences, and sadly many experience both. 😔 I think it's important to show support to each other. 🤗 Jennifer, you're always so kind, and your visit is appreciated as always. 💖 I do enjoy those friendships I make along the way. 🤝 Thank you for taking the time to visit and show support. 🙏
DeleteAwesome post! We can all learn from this stuff. I used to join a bunch of blog parties, but I stopped a while back. I guess you could say I grew out of it. I always remember there was one in particular, the blogger only chose to feature bloggers she was familiar with. I felt so out of place. I checked out her blog recently and saw that she still does this. I'm happy to be done with that. I did check out your blog party. And honestly, if I was still joining, I'd join yours in a heartbeat! Keep up the great blogging.
ReplyDelete-Katie
Katie, thank you. 💖 I'm sorry to hear that experience you went through with that particular link party. 😔 Aw. and yes, we would have loved having you at our link party. 🥰 Thank you for sharing your blogging experience. I wish you the best moving forward. 🌟
DeleteSuch a great post! Everything you said is so spot on!
ReplyDeleteAmy, thank you! 😊 I feel like this subject is not talked about enough. Thank you for visiting; it's very much appreciated. 🥰💖
DeleteGreat post, Stephanie. For the most part I've had really good experiences in the blogging community. The little corner I participate in is overwhelming positive, full of "real" people, like you. Thanks!
ReplyDeleteLisa, I'm so happy that you have experienced a positive blogging experience. Honestly, we all should. It makes me happy to hear that there is still some positivity within the blogging community. 😊 And thank you for being real as well. You are appreciated. 🙏
DeletePerfect! We all get to be what we actually are just like in our homes, if you were to come for a visit. I appreciate the friendship offered through blogging, not to mention the creativity. It isn't for everyone, but then again, not everything is. Thanks Stephanie, have a great week ahead.
ReplyDeleteMelynda, I love that! Thank you for visiting and sharing your words. It's appreciated. Have a wonderful weekend. 💖😊
ReplyDeleteWell said!
ReplyDeleteThank you, Jeanne. 😊
DeleteThis is so well-stated! And thorough, to be honest. :) There are so many things to consider about blogging, monetizing, and link-ups. I think it's a case of "we're all doing our best out here," but I also think it's "we're doing things HOW WE WANT to do them," which is so valid. I like what Melynda said about how all of our homes are different. You do you. And I do me. And Melynda does Melynda. And none of it is wrong or bad.
ReplyDeleteFor me (and you probably already know this), I blog for the purpose of putting good/encouragement/ideas/information out there that I hope will be beneficial to others, and the main way I know that works (or isn't working) is comments. (Or Pins and other types of shares.) So one big thing I look for when I spend my time participating in a linkup (since I always read and comment on other posts) is getting a comment on my own post(s) out of it, even if it's only one from the host. YOU DO AN AMAZING JOB at exemplifying what I (in my opinion!) think makes a terrific linkup host: leaving thoughtful comments. I think that's what creates community and connection.
Guest blog posts are so fun as well. I love that you have explored so many ideas in this post. I'm Pinning it and sharing it. :) Thanks for your encouraging words of wisdom here.
Jennifer,
DeleteYou have always been so encouraging, and know that it is appreciated. 😊
I agree; I really like what Melynda mentioned. It really resonated with me. See, when a community comes together, we can all inspire and share even more encouragement. 💖🤝
I thank you for being kind as well.
As a blog party host, I am thrilled to read new posts at the party and even at other parties. It's honestly enjoyable and such a great way to meet others.
Jennifer, you are such a wonderful host at your blog party as well. You take the time to visit each blog, and that is so kind of you. 🤗🌟
Thank you for being real. It's very much appreciated. 💖
Thank you, Stephanie! <3 :) Your positivity and light is always encouraging and uplifting!
DeleteI've always appreciated being featured but I've never given it a second thought when it doesn't happen. I love when people visit and leave comments but again if it doesn't happen life does continue.
ReplyDeleteI love finding bloggers that teach me something new or make me laugh on a tough day. I have found all kinds of resources over the years for my doll project through other bloggers. It takes time to reach out but its been worth it.
I wholeheartedly agree that life progresses regardless of whether comments are left. I personally do not dwell on whether my contributions to a blog party will be highlighted. My primary hope is that someone might find my DIY crafts or travel posts, among other things, to be beneficial or informative.
DeleteKatie, in the comments above, brought up the point that some blog hosts tend to feature individuals they are already acquainted with. While it is disheartening to learn that this occurs, it is reassuring to note that there is an abundance of other excellent blog parties available for participation. It is truly wonderful to hear that you have discovered such valuable resources fir your doll projects. Indeed, reaching out requires an investment of time, but it is undoubtedly a worthwhile endeavor. One never knows whose inspiration they might become. I wish you a lovely day.
Wonderful post, Stephanie! I have been blogging for almost (gasp) twenty years! I began when blogging was a very small group and we almost all knew each other. Blogging grew and grew and many new and gorgeous blogs were developed, but I remained with the free Blogspot platform to keep costs down. Then ads on blogs became a thing, and there was a giant uproar over that! I was honored to be accepted into a BlogHer program --now called SheKnows-- that places ads on my blog, but lost a lot of followers when that happened. I don't make a lot of money but it helps pay for my extra photo storage that I need in order to keep hundreds of thousands of blog photos in storage, so it is a "win-win"
ReplyDeleteSadly, I learned a few years ago to place comment moderation on my comments after seeing spam message, comments pop up on older posts. I've happily only experienced a few ugly or overly critical comments over the years. To me, blogging had enabled me to feel as if I have friends all around the world! I love it and hope to continue doing it as long as I can. I'm in my 70s and blogging is good mental stimulation, and more fun than doing crossword puzzles. (smile)
Pat,
DeleteThank you. I love visiting your blog. Since I, too, live here in Colorado, you have inspired me to visit some of the places you have mentioned, or I've already gone and love to hear about how your trip went and what you thought about the place.
That is awesome that SheKnows accepted you into their ad program. Congratulations on that!
It is sad to lose bloggers over ad placements. And yes, it may not earn a lot, but hey, it is something!
I've seen people mention how they have ad blockers and so they know that the person won't get any clicks from them, etc. But those same people share Amazon affiliate links, etc., so that they, too, can make a small earning. It's silly to think about going around and making jokes about that. But to each their own.
I love your thoughts on blogging and a community of friends. It sure does help having those connections.
Thank you for taking the time to read my post and comment.
It's appreciated beyond words. Pat, have an amazing weekend.
I love this Stephanie. There's definitely no right or wrong way, not everyone likes everything and that's perfectly ok. I often think about stopping my Handmade Monday link up, wondering if it's worth the time and effort but I do love connecting with other like minded people. In this day and age we need things that bring us together as much as possible :-)
ReplyDeleteJulie, thank you. You are so right. There's definitely no right or wrong. Aw, I really enjoy your blog party. You are right, we definitely need things to bring us together as much as possible. Thank you for your kind, encouraging words. I appreciate it.
DeleteI really like this post especially the bit about the ads. I have to have ads on my blog to provide income for our family. And I know they're ugly and annoying and I would much rather not have them, but I can't afford not to. Sometimes I'm judged for these ads, so your kind understanding feels heartwarming.
ReplyDeleteNicole, aw, thank you. Yes, it definitely needs to be talked about because for some that is their income, and honestly, being able to show ads on a blog is a huge milestone. It took some work to get there. I've seen many other bloggers complain about ads or mention ad blockers. But those same individuals share affiliate links so that they can make an earning as well. Let's make this make sense! Nicole, thank you for visiting, and also keep up the great work on your blog! I enjoy your blog. 😊
DeleteExcellent tips! As in many aspects of life, we shouldn't judge others and assume "our way" is the "right way.
ReplyDeleteAbsolutely! Thank you for sharing your thoughts with us. It's appreciated 👏😊
DeleteWonderful post Stephanie. Thanks for sharing your heart and thoughts. I have blogged for some time and I have seen the good side and community, and the bad side a few times. In the end, I find it is best to follow your own path, make great friends, enjoy the ride, and don't worry about what others are doing. I will be sharing this post as a feature this week. #HomeMattersParty
ReplyDeleteDonna, thank you. I agree—make great friends and enjoy the ride. That's always important. Blogging is a journey for sure, with good and bad, but in the end, do what puts a smile on your face! 😊 Thank you so much for the feature. I appreciate it.
DeleteI'm glad to see this post. I started my blog one long winter night a long -ahem- long time ago because I wanted to learn something new. I certainly have that and am now starting a new venture with very different goals that will stretch that learning a LOT! I enjoy what I am doing and am having fun the way it's done. I hope others enjoy linking and sharing their week's work/play/point of view. I try to feature fairly -- because everybody hits a home run sometime!
ReplyDeleteCharlene, thank you so much. I appreciate you sharing your thoughts here. Yes, I also try to be completely fair during my link parties. I want everyone to have their post showcased. 🌟 It makes me so happy when bloggers share their posts, and I love bringing them into the spotlight. I love what you said about everyone hitting a home run! I just love that. Thank you so much for sharing your thoughts on this important topic. 💯
DeleteBlogging to me is a personal thing, as you mentioned there are so many different ways of doing it but most important, to me in any case, is communication and supporting one another.
ReplyDeleteThank you so much for linking and sharing with us at SSPS 398. See you again at 399, do not miss out on a surprise
Esme, thank you for joining in on the discussion. Yes, communication and supporting one another is very important. :) Thank you for visiting.
DeleteSteph, this is one of my features for SSPS 399! This topic is so important, to maintain good community relations, in a community that can from time to time, be too frantic. Thank you.
ReplyDeleteMelynda, this made my day! Thank you so much. I hope that others can read this and share kindness within the blogging community. It's so important.
DeleteThank you for sharing this with us at the Will Blog for Comments #78 linkup, Stephanie! This is SUCH important perspective that I think every blogger needs to know and remember. There are so many opportunities to support and be positive. This is a fantastic post.
ReplyDeleteJennifer, oh, thank you. 😊
DeleteI always appreciate your kindness. Thank you for being part of the positivity the blogging community needs.